Generation Y is a busy bunch filled with recent graduates, current students, employers and more. There are a million and one things we each have to do on a daily basis. With all of the latest technologies at our finger-tips we all seek instant gratification. We order food via apps, we text to set up appointments, we share with many friends our daily doings via social media. Most of the time we just do not have the time. Booty calls make life a bit less stress and sex somewhat regular.

There are many pros and cons to a booty call partnership:

With age comes responsibilities and with responsibilities come sacrifices. And as I grow older [and wiser I might add] I realize all of the sacrifices that I make whether knowingly or unknowingly. There are bills to be paid, students loans to be paid off, the essentials and necessities of everyday living and then some. Oh, and do not have a child or children, because the sacrifices increase 10-fold. The major thing I've noticed among my peers would be the sacrifice of face to face social lives. Many of us count meetings or the typical grab a bit to eat during lunch or after work as a social outing. We simply do not have the time between work, the gym, and running errands to do some of the things we used to do without some in depth planning. And the way most of our budgets and accounts are set up, forget the clubs, being in bed is really where it's at.

With the recent events in my life I find myself really focusing on paying off my student loans, saving for a car, and building my brand. My wallet is tighter than ever, my friend circle has now been formed into a triangle, and my living habits can probably be graded under what I experienced in college. That may seem shitty as hell, but it's the truth. I've somewhat become a hermit, but the increase in other things in my life is amazing I must admit. To be honest, ever now and then I may splurge a bit and eat out, hit a lounge or bar with associates, or even book a flight for a trip across the map. You have to treat yourself on occasion, but that comes after the sacrifices and progress has been made.

Have you noticed an increase or even decrease in the amount of sacrifices you have made whether you had to for an immediate reason or you've chosen to do so for a future goal? Feel free to share sacrifices and or tips you have gone through that has lead to success or lessons in adulthood.

I get that technology is an ever changing field. I get that phones can do some pretty dope shit like organize your chaotic life, allow you to do everything hands free, remind you of daily appointments etc., but have people forgotten that they still operate as a calling device?

Call me old fashioned but I love getting calls. I enjoy being up until the wee hours just talking about real world randomness and laughing at stuff that probably isn't that funny. It seems people simply use the call button when rushed or impatient. Why is that? Has technology advanced us so far that we cannot manage a slow spell?

Looking back over my young 23 years of life, I’ve heard it all from “you’d make the perfect wife” to “if I’m not with anybody and you’re not with anybody when we’re like 33 we should get together.” I’ve been the homie (damn bro) that guys told everything to; the chicks they’ve dealt with past, present and next, family issues, dreams and aspirations, y’all get me. Yet even with all that I gave –advice, support, space, etc- I’m never thought to be in the running. So I’m basically like that nice guy that has everything going for him, except moving out of the friend zone, but why? I’m not needy or overbearing. I’m not crazy emotional. Maybe I’m too disconnected? Hmm.

Acquaintance: a person one knows slightly, but who is not a close friend.

Friend: a person who you like & enjoy being with, helps or supports someone or something, a person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.

 
With all of the new and rapidly growing technology relationships grow, build, strengthen, and terminate rather quickly. This generation tends to find their new BFF, bestie, PIC, ROD, ace, Day 1 … (You get it), through the likes of Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. And with constant status updates that individual [insert label here] tends to change monthly if not weekly. Now I’m in no way saying no one makes or finds true friendships “the old fashioned way” nor am I putting down my generation (although it needs to get many things together). I’m just as open to online friendships as my peers are with digitally forming relationships. I personally feel that I cannot do it, because I need actually face-to-face contact and interaction.

I often say I have no friends; which isn’t true per say, but well, it is. I am one who seeks acquaintances and or associates in the business aspect. Friends on the other hand just appear, like family you’re kinda stuck with them. That is exactly what my friends are to me, family. I don’t choose them and sometimes I have even tried to get rid of them. They just won’t go away, like a festering fungus, but eventually they grow on me and BOOM! a friendship has been formed. This could be the very reason why I have no idea how I met half of my friends (aside from the basic “oh in high school on the bus”). My point is I met my homies face-to-face in real reach out and touchable life, and we somehow clicked, not via social media madness.

Not because s/he had swag, was deemed bad, or had a considerable amount of likes on all of s/he pics on FB or Insta and “look like we’d get along and have fun”. I get that that is how some people link up or start conversations with others in reality “because you seem/look coo,” but sheesh are we really that shallow? Are you seriously bonding with and trusting these individuals that are your so-called “friends”? Are they given the title as such over substantial moments or just dope moments that look picture perfect enough for others to envy? Real talk, I’d like to know what you, my peers, think. What are your definitions of friends and what is on your checklist of what a friend is composed of?