So a few weeks back I shared a few of my initial experiences using dating apps to meet new people and get a few new texting buddies. Basically it was a partial fail. I’d quickly given up on Black Dating For Free and Tinder. The majority of the people creeped me out and some of the pictures just. . . really? I do not mean that in a shallow way at all, but let me just go on the record saying I do happen to like seeing men in clothing. I mean it’s nice to be comfortable in your skin, I’m happy for you bro, but sometimes it’s a bit much and I have a pretty damn awesome imagination, so just let me use that instead of you showing me the full picture before hello.

Anywhos, I kept with OkCupid and Meld through my next trial run. I’d began talking to a few cool guys (in my opinion, one was really “nerdy” <totally his words>, but his conversation and intellect were on point!). I tried several other apps and maybe I didn’t give them a fair try, but it was pretty downhill for me.

Coffee Meets Bagel: Yawns.  & Wyldfire: Speed dating with people’s friends?

Honestly, I didn’t give these two apps a chance. I made profiles and browsed, but I realized again, I’m not about this life. Coffee Meets Bagel takes too long for me. You get a “bagel” every 12 hours if I remember correctly. Only certain information on your bagel’s profile is shared until you like to reveal more. With Wyldfire you’ve got to invite some of your friends to join the network. Hmm, what is I was serious about dating and embarrassed that I was going through an app? I’m not,  but again, it seemed like too much work. I’m good.

SoulSwipe: Def Enjoyable

So I honestly took this one for a joke, more serious than BDFF, but still a joke. I assumed some crazy things to say the least, but I was wronged . . . by one guy. So I had a few matches over the 2-week period I tried it out. Out of about six matches I’ve only exchanged words with half of them. The other guys I matched up with they didn’t reach out and aside from one, I didn’t contact them either. Of the three I did speak to, one was eager to meet (and just so happened to live up the street from me) and the other was really laid back and had decent conversation (plus he was cute, score?). With the guy that wanted to meet, I was disappointed in the fact that we’d barely matched, I tried to start a conversation even agreed to give him my number to text, but every question was only met with “so when you want to meet up?” It was at that moment that I knew I needed to get my ass off of these damn apps. People are seriously looking for love, lusts and fucks, or Catfishing folks and I’m seriously not with any of that right now. That “conversation” ended rather quickly. Maybe he thought I was a big fat catfish or childish since he mentioned "adults meet up in public places like Starbucks". Eh, but I don't even have any info on you besides a picture and a name, both of which may not be yours. Moving along. The other guy, Mr. Cutie, was the perfect texting buddy. Texting with him sort of gave me that high school feeling. First person that texts me in the morning, conversation just continues no matter how many hours or days pass, and he actually talks about things and has a good sense of humor! Sheesh, where have you been? I didn’t even attempt to match up with any other guys. He had my attention for awhile.

There was also Hinge and Cupid, but aside from downloading the apps, I never got around to checking them out.

Conclusion: I’ve deleted all profiles on all apps excluding Meld (which I haven’t been on since deleting all accounts about 2 weeks ago). If ever I do decide to venture into dating apps again I’d definitely get back on OkCupid and SoulSwipe. The men, no matter the race, ethnicity, religion, career field, were all interesting in their own ways. It was fun. It was innocent. And now, for the time being, it is over. It was fun trying something new and out of my comfort zone. I went into it with an opened mind, but assumptions there would be a sort of party-line (y’all remember the party lines) feel. It wasn’t and maybe that was a bit disappointing. Also, it seemed like work to go through tons of profiles to only get a handful of matches and maybe one good conversation. I’ll stick to bumping into folks in public and having small talk and exchanging numbers and see where it goes. But in order for that to happen, I’ve got to get back comfortable with giving a random guy my number (there have been some crazies, may share a story or two with you next time).

Hey, feel free to share any experiences you may have had with online dating apps. Also, let me know how you all think my experiences were the way that they were. I’m inviting you to read me haha. Play nice!

With waxing three styles that you can achieve are the bald kitty (Brazilian wax), the almost bald kitty (almost Brazilian), and the neat kitty (Bikini wax). The first two you can accessorize with a top hat (triangle patch) or a stache (strip). Don't mind my colorful talk, it's simply how I remember all of this (being a girl can be so hard)!

But the question I pose to you all, male, female, other, trans etc, is do you all think bald kiddies are child-like?

Awhile back I witnessed two males in discussion about this. Guy 1 stated he didn't mind a lil fluff as long as it wasn't overboard (tame and trimmed I assumed). Guy 2 stated he didn't want to see a fro of any kind. Guy 1 replied "why not? You're dealing with grown women and grown women have hair on their *meows.*" He went on to say that a guy who likes it completely gone all of the time is kind of perverted, maybe even a bit of a pedophile. Whoa. That's serious. I stopped listening in (should have been minding my business anyway). But that always rang out in my head anytime the topic of waxing or shaving of the lady parts came up. I get both perspectives, but it all comes down to hygiene and what the lady is comfy with.


Let me know what you all think! 



Update!


Check out this article that asked men what they thought of bald kitties!

Generation Y is a busy bunch filled with recent graduates, current students, employers and more. There are a million and one things we each have to do on a daily basis. With all of the latest technologies at our finger-tips we all seek instant gratification. We order food via apps, we text to set up appointments, we share with many friends our daily doings via social media. Most of the time we just do not have the time. Booty calls make life a bit less stress and sex somewhat regular.

There are many pros and cons to a booty call partnership:

To keep it stress free, fun and safe discuss boundaries early on to keep dealing unattached!

My best friends were met late in my life. I met my best friend and brother freshman year in high school. I’m sure we met on the school bus, but who knows how that first conversation started. We’ve had our good and bad moments. I’ve tried to kick him out after play fighting and breaking my bracelet. He’s celebrated Christmas with my family and has never forgotten it (he doesn’t celebrate holidays). He’s let me vent to him about all kinds of stuff even boys and sex and is the only person I let come at me about why I am not in a relationship and question when it’ll happen. He can be annoying, but I wouldn’t trade him for the world! Female “friends” were there, went, came and gone, but he’s remained a constant. He deals with my attitudes and isn’t afraid to (try) to set me straight. An unbreakable bond for sure.

LB is definitely one of my bestest friends and sister. Of course I looked at her freshman year of college like gosh you’re super annoying! But, like fungus, people have a way of growing on you. She’s supported me through some of my toughest times and has celebrated some of my greatest growing moments. She doesn’t sugar coat anything with me no matter how I may feel about it. That’s a real friend. She challenges me and pushes me to do more. Of course we’ve had our girl fights, females have tried to test our friendship and then some.

Although I've known some people longer and have even been through some of the craziest things (fights, rides in cop cars, family issues) these two are my "chosen family." They take the bad as well as the good, support me and push me when needed. It isn't about all they do for me, because I supply them with the same love and more. It's give and take like any other relationship. That's what real friends do for friends. Even though I still say I didn't really choose them.   :)

This friend went on about how our bodies are made to cleanse itself and these sort of products are not needed. I agree with part of her statement, but again, I beg to differ. At this point I'm thinking, sheesh do I really know this lady? I have never looked at her and thought, what is going on up there in that head of hers. Now I totally agree with the statement "our bodies are made to cleanse itself,"  however there are more things to take into consideration. In the beginning, humans wore no clothing, meaning privates were aired out more often. Styles of fashion in prior generations and centuries did not include skin tight jeans. Due to tight clothing, sexual activity and less air circulation, vaginas are basically gasping for air. That can cause problems; itching, yeast infections, bacteria build up, and even odors. Products like Vagisil help tame some of that aside from medications, proper cleansing (warm water and maybe a mild soap) and going panty-less.

The conversation went further in discussion about douching and how vaginas were never meant to smell like roses and peaches. (This we both agreed on). I'm bringing this to you all in wanting to know your opinions on vaginal health care and products like Vagisil and douches. Feel free to speak your real by hitting the comment button.