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“You going out with who, where? Text me the details when you get there.”  Everyone has that one friend who always –without signal- takes on the parental role. Aside from the fact that I use the word son a lot (to males or females, but males mainly these days), I am so sure that is me. I’m the one that friends share secrets with, get advice from and vent to amongst other things. As of late, I’m seeing just how “motherly” I am.
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“Because I simply didn’t like her in that way there’s a pretty thick line between friend and more than friends material lmao. Because I can be friends with just about anybody whose a good person, but I wont date you just because you’re a good person there has to be similar goals, lifestyle, personality plays a far bigger factor in terms of what sets them off or what they enjoy doing for fun.” – M. Rand I’ve heard plenty of talk about this guy being put in the friend zone or “awe bro, she said you’re her bff, friend zoned!” but it isn’t too often that there is talk about a girl who has been friend zoned. Real talk, it happens! Even elitedaily.com had an article on it where I first learned of “bro-zoned.” It was after reading a few articles one night (randomly) that I realized, awe shit, I’ve super been bro-zoned. “Usually if she’s way more on it than me. Like if she’s saying things she wish she had a boyfriend for and I don’t see us like that I’m going to try to friend zone that. ” – G. Guess Looking back over my young 23 years of life, I’ve heard it all from “you’d make the perfect wife” to “if I’m not with anybody and you’re not with anybody when we’re like 33 we should get together.” I’ve been the homie (damn bro) that guys told everything to; the chicks they’ve dealt with past, present and next, family issues, dreams and aspirations, y’all get me. Yet even with all that I gave –advice, support, space, etc- I’m never thought to be in the running. So I’m basically like that nice guy that has everything going for him, except moving out of the friend zone, but why? I’m not needy or overbearing. I’m not crazy emotional. Maybe I’m too disconnected? Hmm. “I did not see her like that and some girls just come on too strong, always on me, always want me around them or always calling and texting me; like be cool, don’t be all up on me.” – R. Broadnax WRITTEN BY: VIOLA CONSTANCE | @Voila_its_Viola
Acquaintance: a person one knows slightly, but who is not a close friend. Friend: a person who you like & enjoy being with, helps or supports someone or something, a person whom one knows, likes, and trusts. With all of the new and rapidly growing technology relationships grow, build, strengthen, and terminate rather quickly. This generation tends to find their new BFF, bestie, PIC, ROD, ace, Day 1 … (You get it), through the likes of Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. And with constant status updates that individual [insert label here] tends to change monthly if not weekly. Now I’m in no way saying no one makes or finds true friendships “the old fashioned way” nor am I putting down my generation (although it needs to get many things together). I’m just as open to online friendships as my peers are with digitally forming relationships. I personally feel that I cannot do it, because I need actually face-to-face contact and interaction. I often say I have no friends; which isn’t true per say, but well, it is. I am one who seeks acquaintances and or associates in the business aspect. Friends on the other hand just appear, like family you’re kinda stuck with them. That is exactly what my friends are to me, family. I don’t choose them and sometimes I have even tried to get rid of them. They just won’t go away, like a festering fungus, but eventually they grow on me and BOOM! a friendship has been formed. This could be the very reason why I have no idea how I met half of my friends (aside from the basic “oh in high school on the bus”). My point is I met my homies face-to-face in real reach out and touchable life, and we somehow clicked, not via social media madness. Not because s/he had swag, was deemed bad, or had a considerable amount of likes on all of s/he pics on FB or Insta and “look like we’d get along and have fun”. I get that that is how some people link up or start conversations with others in reality “because you seem/look coo,” but sheesh are we really that shallow? Are you seriously bonding with and trusting these individuals that are your so-called “friends”? Are they given the title as such over substantial moments or just dope moments that look picture perfect enough for others to envy? Real talk, I’d like to know what you, my peers, think. What are your definitions of friends and what is on your checklist of what a friend is composed of? WRITTEN BY: VIOLA CONSTANCE | @Voila_its_Viola
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